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Man vs Woman vs The insecure males online

Every so often a female combat athlete will take on a man. It’s not a new thing, Andy Kaufman proudly called himself the ‘Intergender Wrestling Champion’ even going so far as to promise any woman his hand in marriage if she could best him. Boxer Jackie Tonawana knocked out Muay Thai fighter Larry Rodania in a 1975 ‘MMA’ match and Lucia Rijker had a kickboxing fight against Somchai Jaidee where she was KO’d. These matches and more recent ones are often raised or forgotten, depending on the agenda being pushed.

In the social media age there seems to be a delight that mostly men take in ridiculing a female athlete for competing against a man in the combat arena. Mostly voyeurs who are cuckolding the violence and most concepts of masculinity to other men, cheer when a woman is defeated. Should she perform well the declaration that, “well he was going easy on her,” is often raised. One crucial fact that is often overlooked is that most female combat athletes have a far better understanding of the differences between men and women under certain contexts, physical combat especially.

Due to scarcity, most female combat athletes train with men. They understand the strength and power than men generally posses compared to themselves, while understanding the mobility and flexibility that their female opponents may have in contrast to their male training partners. At times a woman may have to take on a ‘gimick’ fight because they run out of female opponents, Lucia Rijkers KO loss to Jaideee being such an example. Instead of being praised for taking the risk, she is often ridiculed and becomes the punching bag of men who perhaps hate women because of her loss. Or Tonawana being denied a boxing license because she was a woman, making regular fights hard so she had to fight mixed matches, pro wrestling and work as a sparring partner.

The critics of female combat sports can at times come at the athletes with a sense of insecurity, a deranged form of ownership of the definitions of masculine and feminine. Preferences and opinions are a unique thing to have, it is a right. Just as a woman seeking to play a sport, a sport mind you that most men seem more happy to watch rather than participate in themselves, despite any romantic pretensions about masculine virtues, also have such a right. There is nothing inherently masculine about playing a sport. Masculine men do often play sports and exemplify masculinity as they do so. Playing a sport in itself is not exclusive to masculinity however.

The knowledge that a man generally does have more power and physical strength than a woman is what makes the courage of the female combat athlete so much more fascinating when they do compete against a man. And should she lose, the critics “well she got her equal rights and lefts”, is a perfect example of a fragility that is permeating among many males at this time. She did it, she climbed in their and tried. The timid voyeur on the outside likely has never experienced such an arena or contest and yet the soap box of social media allows scores of them to squeal in concert as one large chorus of timidity, as though they are defeating feminism or restoring manhood.

Strawweight MMA fighter Aleksandra Stepakova took on a 240kg male opponent, where she gave up nearly 200kg in weight against the much larger man. The fight went for three rounds, with the size and mass of the man, Chistyakov, ensuring his victory via decision despite a game effort and at times smart movements from the much smaller Stepakova. Most men have never experienced a combat contest against a much larger opponent, yet the comments are full of the manure of cowardly critics. Those who only see a threat to masculinity, as though this woman competing against a man was somehow a battle between their testosterone and the compulsory distribution of Germaine Greer’s ‘The Female Eunuch’ to all schools. It was just a fight between two fighters.

The absurdity is also on display when boxer Clarissa Fields is knocked down during sparring with a male partner. As though a knock down in sparring is anything glorious to celebrate. Sparring is not a fight, and it is common for fighters to be dropped. It is a time of experimentation and practice and it is also not unusual for even the best to get caught. The viral nature of the footage and excited narrative pushed was absurd. Again the ‘man vs woman’ narrative was ever prominent.

If female combat athletes threaten your masculinity, then boy do I have news for you. Maybe you are a threat to your own masculinity if that is the case. A female combat athlete is not your enemy, they are also not detracting from male sports players. In fact training partners are always welcome when they are at a certain level, weight and sex seldom matters when you need someone who is willing to help and put in the work. Those on the outside who watch the sport with virginal delight may never understand or appreciate this.

One does not need to be defined as feminist, progressive or whatever contemporary political nonsense that is trending to find such collectivist nonsense absurd. If you don’t want to watch, good for you, then don’t. If you hate seeing women play a sport, good for you, don’t watch. And if you get excited should a man defeat a woman in an arena, then that is for you to revel in. And if you feel the need to comment, then go your hardest. But, Man up boys and be better, a woman training and playing a sport is not a threat to you and should she beat or lose to a man, then two INDIVIDUALS competed. It’s not the end of the world and your balls will not suddenly disappear. Have a go at the sport yourself, you may learn something about who you are and about the sport, better than watching it will ever give you. In the meantime, she got in there and tried. Have you?

March, 2024

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